Let’s face it; the concept of Thanksgiving is different from a Caregivers perspective than from most other’s at the table enjoying family time and a Holiday meal!
For you, the true meaning of being thankful has changed into a far more visceral, real and practical perspective. You are able to be thankful for small things others may not now or ever notice;
• a note that stirs something within you… as you are more aware of emotions than during the days that you walked without the (joyful?) burden of responsibility.
• a commercial that hits a pitch-perfect tone and emboldens your reality that you are not alone even if the “service” or “product” cannot resolve your dilemma.
And given my intimate understanding of Caregiver personalities I make a reasonable assumption that despite your duties and obligations far exceeding those around you; I bet your efforts and contributions on this day are also greater… did you cook the meal? Bring a dish?
I bet you did…
The incredible satisfaction you derive from surviving a good day as a Caregiver, and the relief when a difficult day has ended offers a vastly different awareness of the joys of a Holiday… and perhaps an acceptance that these emotional trials and judgments of expectation we set on such days need not be so harsh or contrived in importance.
Here is hoping that such a perspective will allow you simply be thankful on this day… thankful simply for another day loving family, life and yes… even our burdens.
This more practical; more-gentle perception of the importance of a moment in comparison to worthiness of our efforts regardless of our outcomes is an earned “gift” of Caregiving!
Thank YOU for Caring!